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Long distance relationships

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How many of you have been in a long distance relationship? How did you make it work?
As if life isn’t hard enough, trying to maintain a long distance relationship is hard work. But thanks to todays technology, you have multiple ways to keep that connection strong. Don’t get me wrong, doesn’t necessarily make it any easier as I’m a person who craves physical touch from my special person, but it helps.
Well looks like I may be needing to plan a trip very soon ❤️
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I'm in a long distance relationship with someone who I resonate with on every level. I met her when she was here for a poetry reading (I read too) in November of last year. She came up to me after the reading to say how much she liked my poems. She was warm and encouraging, and despite the difference in our ages (I'm 20 years her senior) we have much in common, including favorite poets, politics, witchcraft, tatts and music. But she lives 400 miles upstate and we've met in bed only a few times (she stayed with me when she was here earlier this month.)

We text each other new poems and pics almost every day talk on the phone a couple of times a week.

Last night was a a super blue moon, the only blue moon of the year and I had to phone her after doing my own moon ritual and get the skinny on her ritual. I so longed to be with her last night!
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@letsbefriends1st
No. Never been in a long-distance relationship.
All mine have been short-term, short- distance relationships.
Mostly within 10 miles or so from where I've lived.

Not sure I could do a longer distance one. If you come home from work you can spontaneously phone the person you're dating at the time to say 'hey I'm bored, pop round & grab some fish & chips for us on the way'.

You mentioned technology. That's better than 'nowt I guess, but it won't get you the human touch if he or she is 2 counties away!
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We try to do a meet every 6 months and it suits my lifestyle. I don't have the time to see someone more regularly and I don't like being smothered either and was nervous about trusting someone so the distance forces us to go at a pace I am happy with. I think same for her too so it works for us. This isn't a forever thing though and it helps to know there is a future plan which we can see we are progressing.
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I think we are both happy in a way being in a long distance relationship where we are oceans apart cause it keeps some very real issues at bay. If we were to live closer to each other i don't think we'd be able to stay away from each other which would cause strain on our marriages. I'll admit, its hard not to he able to physically be together. Of course i crave to know what she feels like, smells like and tastes like and i know she feels the same, but we both have partners that we love too and whom we have to take into consideration as well. Its either we accept that this is an online ldr forever or not have it at all....and i'd rather have her this way than lose her forever. Look, obviously there might be a chance of one day meeting up but there are a couple of things to first be sorted out with both our partners before we will be able to do this. In the meantime, we chat every day on video calls for hours except on weekends. We send messages, we send each other gifts for christmas and birthdays and yes we get intimate 😉

For us its a full blown relationship and its satisfying. I don't want someone closer cause i don't want that pressure on my marriage. I think both out partners are tolerating this relationship cause its causes no direct threat....

It does get hard, im a very physical person...its my love language. I like touching, hugging, kissing and cuddling. So yeah, sometimes it does hurt like hell and breaks my heart not being able to do those things with her, but I love her and im not going to leave her just cause we can't do those things. Im too emotionally invested.....
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Bookworm wrote: Fri Sep 01, 2023 7:29 am We try to do a meet every 6 months and it suits my lifestyle. I don't have the time to see someone more regularly and I don't like being smothered either and was nervous about trusting someone so the distance forces us to go at a pace I am happy with. I think same for her too so it works for us. This isn't a forever thing though and it helps to know there is a future plan which we can see we are progressing.
I can’t wait to see you in a few weeks! 💋
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Shyjay832 wrote: Thu Feb 22, 2024 3:27 am
Bookworm wrote: Fri Sep 01, 2023 7:29 am We try to do a meet every 6 months and it suits my lifestyle. I don't have the time to see someone more regularly and I don't like being smothered either and was nervous about trusting someone so the distance forces us to go at a pace I am happy with. I think same for her too so it works for us. This isn't a forever thing though and it helps to know there is a future plan which we can see we are progressing.
I can’t wait to see you in a few weeks! 💋
Ugh you guys are so adorable! I'm so happy for you!!
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