Swingers: trigger warning, mention of hetero men

[delevigne-fan]

I’ve put a trigger warning for people if there’s a reason to be offended by this discussion.

I’m interested in many of the women that seem to be in these pairs. I haven’t met any of them but they all seem like very attractive women.

But not the men. (They look like they are stocky and they came straight off a Antipodean farm complete with boots short shorts that Aussies and kiwis wear and a stupid haircut with a fringe LOL) eg:
https://www.austockphoto.com.au/image/a ... ttle-3g2JG

Do couples expect full swap? I’m not on that page as I’m probably not interested in men apart from the man I’m dating, who is a typical rock or musician type. (My type is a mick jagger looking type or someone who is a musician eg early period Jon Bon Jovi, Nuno Bettencourt, late 80s Bono etc or 60s McCartney)

Even I was not dating a guy, I’ll consider the unicorn hunters to get to the women.

I’m not even a swinger - it’s just an in to meet women.
I’m not kinky or adventurous. Just bisexual.
I don’t need to meet all the women too. Just one for now if at all.
Doesn’t swinging mean full couple swapping, where you’re expected to swap?
Couples are more common on dating sites. I guess I’m in a couple, but they’re also unicorn hunting me as I’ve got my own female profile up.

This is artificial on my part, a contrived exercise, are other bisexual women only doing this to get to other women?
Why so many nudes that they send?
I don’t have a photo and I’m anaesthetised and uninterested in their sudden nudes.
I prefer clothed photos.
Everyone wants to meet tonight or yesterday.
Sure I like sex but they’re all in a rush.

Maybe I’d be open to another man too if the couples or women are not extra pushy and do not send nudes.
They should slow down. It’s not a race.

[delevigne-fan]

Im a reluctant participant for sure.
But that might change for me for the right couple. The man I’m dating is all in because he is a stereotypical heterosexual male and of course they’re in on anything.

It’s me pushing this as I’m openly bisexual.
I have initiated all of this.
It’s me running the dating profiles.

[RedRosa]

I know this doesn't exactly answer your question, but I've participated in group sex parties while staying with the partner I arrived with. The thrill comes from being in the midst of other couples having sex in proximity to you. At the parties I attended some people changed partners, some didn't.

[delevigne-fan]

I know this doesn't exactly answer your question, but I've participated in group sex parties while staying with the partner I arrived with. The thrill comes from being in the midst of other couples having sex in proximity to you. At the parties I attended some people changed partners, some didn't.

Actually that does really answer my question to some extent. Very helpful. I’ve been to a swingers club once with the male described in this post and it had the vibe you said happened where you went to a party.
I wasn’t with any other person while I was there, but it’s possible I could be if I went with him again.
If I did I’m more keen on this being a woman.

I get that I fit a stereotypical dynamic between a man and a woman at these places - as a few people would see it as Emphasising patriarchal norms. But being bi this is well within the realms of possibilities - a man and a woman interacting with other women (preferred) or … men.

[420spyjen!]

I was interested in trying a couple and even was brave enough to meet and they backed out in the last few hours. I am not trying that again. I am on a normal dating app, nothing to indicate I am into that, but they pop up and I responded. Not doing that again but would love to know how one might run into this without an app, like real life.

[delevigne-fan]

I was interested in trying a couple and even was brave enough to meet and they backed out in the last few hours. I am not trying that again. I am on a normal dating app, nothing to indicate I am into that, but they pop up and I responded. Not doing that again but would love to know how one might run into this without an app, like real life.

Wouldn’t you just go to a swingers club or adult club or something? Google it in your local area. I don’t think there’s any other way unless you do go on apps or personally know people who do this type of thing. If you have friends that do it then maybe that’s the way but I just don’t think you’re going to encounter people looking for third parties for threesomes walking around with obvious pointers to the fact they get into that type of thing.

Or somehow picking up a couple from a bar or nightclub or something. But I don’t again know how that would work. No doubt it can.

For me I have basically decided maybe it’s not for me at the moment but in the future possibly. Good luck

[Redstar81]

From my experience swingers do what they feel they want as an individual and it is normally discussed before hand what is and isn't OK. Alot of the websites are male driven and they push and push for pictures which are not then in safe hands so be careful. It's rare to find a nice couple you can actually be friends with and get to know each other. Just like all social media filter out the odd ones and chat more to the nice ones x