Bi at work. Are you out?

[moonbynight]

...I'm not really trying to hide. Just there's no context for it to come up...

In other words, don't ask, don't tell.

DADT has some pretty specific implications of not being allowed to tell without serious repercussions, and that is not at all what I'm trying to convey.

[RedRosa]

DADT has some pretty specific implications of not being allowed to tell without serious repercussions, and that is not at all what I'm trying to convey.

I was thinking along generic terms rather than the phrase's Clinton era meaning. What the repercussions will be depends on who is doing the asking.

[satehen]

It's really your choice. What do you think you miss out on by everyone not knowing?

It’s not that I want to go to work one day dressed in pink, blue and purple and break out into song over it. I just want to not feel so guarded about what I say. Like when we’re talking about someone we find attractive, I don’t want to stop myself from mentioning the women I’m hot on.

[Ripley]

At the end of the day nobody needs to know. With my situation and after hiding it for so long, I get the need to shout it from the rooftops. I didnt want to hide any more. You feel like you hide it for so long that you just want to say “wow shes gorgeous” or “yeah they do look great”.

I feel now like I lied for so long and after hiding our relationship too, it got too much for me and I made myself ill. You have got to go by whats important for you.

[Bookworm]

I get that. Please don't take my question as criticism, was just wanting to understand your viewpoint. Not here to internet troll or attack others.

I guess for myself, I've accepted the disadvantages of not sharing as benefits outweigh for me. It's so unique to you, the people and environment around you and of course, how safe you feel.

Can I share in the frustration which is sometimes felt because youre not being your whole self? Yes definitely!

[Orla]

I’m not. I don’t want to be. I have a policy of not even following coworkers or letting them follow me on social media. I want my personal life and work life separate.

Recently I found out that our admin repeated something I told her in confidence to people we work with that I would never have wanted shared, so that’s basically reinforced my decision. That’s not to say that I don’t have good relationships with people at work. We’re just not “friends.”

[moonbynight]

DADT has some pretty specific implications of not being allowed to tell without serious repercussions, and that is not at all what I'm trying to convey.

I was thinking along generic terms rather than the phrase's Clinton era meaning. What the repercussions will be depends on who is doing the asking.

Regardless, it implies an avoidance that is more specific than I'm actually talking about. We talk pretty minimally about our personal lives in general, and this is not limited to sexuality.