I really REALLY need to learn how to do this. I'm constantly pestered at work by lonely/bored/upset coworkers to the point where it takes up around 80% of my work day and I'm VERY far behind with actual work.Bookworm wrote: Sun May 28, 2023 3:37 pm On a serious note, where I used to be a fixer and would immediately go into counsellor mode, I am slowly learning to make non committal noises when I get this kind of noise from someone I don't know well. Firstly, because I understand that they are not necessarily looking for a fix but just to offload and secondly, that I cannot get emotionally affected by every problem I see. Took awhile for me to get here and still difficult to stand back at times.