Do you like being touched unexpectedly?

[VirgoGirl]

I like physical affection whether expected or not, as long as it’s done gently and respectfully, but there are some people that just need to keep their distance. I don’t get touched as much as I’d like to in my life, but I don’t want to be smothered either. When a person that I accept within my bubble touches me, it makes me feel worthy and /or attractive enough to be touched. That probably sounds a little sad and pathetic. Creepo unexpected sexual touches are not welcome. Unexpected sexual touch is reserved for obvious consent…a mutual unspoken flame.

That's not sad and pathetic! I like touching too and being touched, it is my love language. But having said that....there's a time and place and a right way of doing things for everything. Timing and respect for the one you love's body is of utter importance. You touch to express love and you respect the privilege to touch.

[Kea]

No bum slapping. I hate it. Tapping and squeezing my bum with the right person, yes please.

I am 50-50 with being touched unexpectedly. I’ve noticed that depending on the mood and time of the month when I’m frisky, I welcome my DH unexpected touch even if I’m focused in doing something. I like it and I reciprocate. I even drop and stop whatever I’m doing and indulge him. If even not frisky but relatively cheerful, having a great day naturally, I do not mind when DH comes from behind and caresses me. I get surprised but also just laugh about it. If I’m not in the mood and I’m dry (yes, dry libido), then, I get annoyed. I swat him like a fly. So I tell DH to read my body language and ask for clues first before touching me. Hard case but that’s it.

When I’m sleeping, don’t disturb me unless it’s a matter of life and death. This rule applies at home. When on a holiday, I can be flexible.