To Be With an Artist

[RedRosa]

There was a conversation …

It was stated -- well, the point was, anyone who marries an artist or is in a long term relationship with an artist ( of any sort ) is most likely unaware that they will never truly have them. I tend to agree. Exceptions, of course.

Artists tend to be people who have a myriad of reasons to be self contained. Who need too much to get it from one person. It’s selfish on the surface. It’s open, raw and vulnerable below. They will always love the muse (s) they focus the most (emotionally)on but they are free birds. You likely can’t contain the swirl of energy and freedom they exist within.

The lack of feeling at home in any one place fully or the ability to find stability when it’s in your face is what causes a lot of depression for many people in the arts and why drugs and alcohol are so enticing.

I agree with most of what was said in this conversation. I’ve seen it. Again and again. I’ve felt it myself.

When Joni said, “You can’t hold the hand of a rock and roll man very long” she was spot on.

You can hold their hand but you’re going to suffer for it. Again and again.

And again, some rare exceptions.

Sheryl Crow once talked about why her relationships seemed to always fail and it came down to life on the road. On the road means loneliness and an alternative reality. It’s easy for things to get stirred up.

You can marry an artist or be in a long term relationship but you’re in for a fight to give them the freedom they need and the constant battle to ‘keep stability going.’

Very few can do it very long.

I’ve seen a few exceptions but it didn’t come without many instances of heartbreak and fight.

Your thoughts?

[Lilianna]

Heart breaking but I have to sadly agree, and it's part ofwhy I am a big fan of polyamory - it's not for everyone, but having it exist and destigmatized can save a lot of heartache

[delevigne-fan]

Maybe that explains my experience with one or two local men, I prefer male musician/artists though. I have no other real experience with guys apart from one. First met him years ago. Reunited last year.

I’ve been with other similar men but they were imitations of him.

It probably comes up on here that I’m bisexual, yes but my experience with this one male exceeds the few other guys, or casual encounters with girls.
I’ve found other men I wasn’t personally or sexually fulfilled by and some were abusive. Hence i sought out a return to this male as I knew I’d be treated like a human being rather than something lesser.

I don’t trust other guys.
Even though I’m bi and like women too, if say this man wanted a marriage I’d be in and no more females. No bother to me.