BDSM

[Kaylee]

@katinthewoods thank you for posting on this topic!

I miss practicing BDSM. Life has gotten so busy that I hardly have any time (for anything let alone BDSM) outside of my day to day responsibilities.

I started out the same, @Orla and @katinthewoods - as a sub because I was looking for a way to let go of control (ie high stress job …..and my type A personality ).

Now, I am definitely a switch that leans toward being dominant. For me, that dynamic depends on the chemistry with the individual.

[moonbynight]

BDSM is something we played with some in my former relationships, but not to the lifestyle extent.

I find it to be a bit hard to be sure of my true feelings about the subject, having been with one person, with whom I had a complicated relationship, for so long.

With men, I don't feel drawn towards a dominant role in the slightest. Maybe that would change with the right man, I don't know.

With women, I feel much more switchy, and am not sure I'd be happy in a role that was strictly one or the other.

I feel comfortable with some basic stuff with pretty much anyone I'd otherwise be willing to be sexually involved with. More intense stuff requires a higher level of love and trust. There's an awful lot I feel like I could be open to with the right person.